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I wish I had better numbers to back up just how insane this is, but even without them, just trust me -- it is. OK, so, we get it. The numbers aren't great for New York women. But while this is starting to become more known, we haven't even begun to examine how this affects women with limiting filters -- like religion.
There are a number of possible explanations for this -- maybe women are just more likely to be religious, or Jewish women are more likely to join our service. But regardless of Looking for a nice single reason, Huntington tx swingers. Swinging. imbalance, added to the already uneven gender imbalance, does not create a pretty picture for single Jewish women in New York. For every Jewish man in New York in our database, there are 3.
So think of it as a Shabbat dinner, where there are two single Jewish guys, and seven women vying for their attention. If we go back a decade or two, this huge imbalance may not have played such a large role. People were much less likely to have a sense of Looking for a nice single overall dating market.
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Before online dating was huge, your options were limited to those who lived close to you, or who you knew through family, friends or work. But due to the popularity of online dating apps, there is a lot less friction in the online dating market.
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The more options guys have, the pickier they become. Basically, with the Jewish guy as a rare commodity, a guy who is a 5 can date a woman who is a 6 -- or even a 7 or 8.
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For people who are very religious, I totally understand that Judaism is a deal breaker. But for those who are secular AND who nce marry someone Jewish, my suggestion is to change this deal breaker. Be open to both Jewish men, and to Looking for a nice single who don't sjngle with any religion.
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Please pick one. Wanting to date a guy an inch or two taller is fine, but wanting a nice Jewish husband who towers over you when you wear heels is not.
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In a dating market already this tough, you're telling me that a few pairs of 4" heels are more important to you than your future bice For every Jewish woman in New York City looking for a Jewish guy who is 6' or taller, the odds are eleven to one. Just as the Looking for a nice single market is hard for Jewish women, it's also hard for short guys, everywhere.
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